Attatchment 101

We have our nephew, David, staying with us for the next 2 1/2 weeks. He has settled right into being part of the family, he even mowed the lawn for me yesterday!

Last night a friend from church invited both David and Caleb to come hang out with their kids for a few hours, at the last minute they decided to take Hannah along too. That left me home for a couple of hours all alone!! What to do?

I had been planning on doing my ironing while watching a movie with Hannah, but the change of plans allowed me to watch one of the online adoption videos I have been wanting to watch.

What an unexpected blessing the night ended up being!!

We had been seeing some attachment issues that needed to be dealt with, but were really at a loss as to how to proceed. Neither of the kids have any of the real big outward signs of attachment problems, but they both really hold things in and get the deer in the headlights look(fear) often. They are also extremely afraid of failing, so they will avoid doing things so they don't fail. Then they end up in trouble for not obeying or following through and I really feel it all stems from these attachment issues.

So last night I was able to watch the first video you will find at this site http://www.irvingbible.org/index.php?id=1581 I found the link to the site from the blog 'A bushel and a peck' that you can find on the sidebar. I love how as each of us share our thoughts and insights others can learn from our research. So I now pass on this wonderful site to others who may be struggling in this area.

I have 2 pages of notes I will work on digesting this morning and have already been praying for strength and consistency to follow through with these practices to help my newest treasures work through the fear and loss that they came to our family with. Hopefully I can post more later as we work through these new waters.